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If I had you to Raise Again

If I had my child to raise all over again,

I'd build self-esteem first,

and the house later.

I'd finger-paint more,

and point the finger less.

I would do less correcting

and more connecting.

I'd take my eyes off my watch

and watch with my eyes.

I would care to know less

and know to care more.

I'd take more hikes and fly more kites.

I'd stop playing serious,

and seriously play.

I would run through more fields

and gaze at more stars.

I'd do more hugging

and less tugging.

I'd see the oak tree in the acorn more often.

I would be firm less often,

and affirm much more.

I'd model less about the love of power,

And more about the power of Love.

Diane Loomans ©

Grandmother-grandchild relationships are simple.

Grandmas are short on critique and long on love.

TEN COMMITMENTS FOR PARENTS

  1. I will always love and respect my child for who he/she is and not who I want him to be.
  2. I will give my child space - to grow, to dream, to succeed, and even, sometimes, to fail.
  3. I will create a loving home environment and show my child that he/she is loved, whenever and however and however I can.
  4. I will, when discipline is necessary, let my child know that I disapprove of what he/she does, not who he is.
  5. I will set limits for my child and help her find security in the knowledge of what is expected of him/her.
  6. I will make time for my child and cherish our moments together, realizing how important - and fleeting - they are.
  7. I will not burden my child with emotions and problems he is not equipped to deal with, remembering that I am the parent and he/she is the child.
  8. I will encourage my child to experience the world and all its possibilities, guiding him/her in its ways and taking the effort to make him/her careful, but not fearful.
  9. I will take care of myself physically and emotionally so that I can be there for my child when he/she needs me.
  10. I will try to be the kind of person I want my child to grow up to be - loving, fair-minded, moral, giving and hopeful.

     ~~ Author Unknown ~~

A Word to Parents

Give a hug or thanks or praise

for the things your children do

Pretty soon they'll be grown up

and you'll be cherishing I love you's

Their little hearts trust you from the start

be grateful that you play a part

in their little lives, don't bribe or chide.

They're very dear, so sigh and cheer

moments to relish I would replenish

if I had the power to regain those hours.

But in my dreams I see sometimes

their little voices sound like chimes.

Give us ever listening ears

to hear their voice and hearts so clear.

Little children meek and mild

some are restless, they like to glide.

Through the day I work without pay

it's a pleasure to watch them play.

Help me to show a picture of their God

in my love and my manner on this earthly sod.

One day they'll be parents, yes I'll see

whether they'll choose to be just like me.

Janet Vargas © Oct 2013

Important things to say to your Child

1) I love you and I always will, there's nothing that can change that.

2) How can I help you? We will get things done.

I know you can do this by yourself. I'm happy to help.

3) You're more clever than you think Look what you just did?

4) You amaze me sometimes, I look at you and wonder.

5) Others are important too, we must let them have their turn.

6)It's alright to cry sometimes. It's good for us but not too much. Let's have happy tears too.

7) I like the way you laugh and smile, I enjoy the things you do.

8) You are important to me and you are very special.

9) I'm sorry, I make a mistake. Will you please forgive me?

10) You decide instead of me....this is your turn.

11) What do you think? I'm interested to know.

12) I have a suprise for you, for no reason. You did not do anything for this but I'm giving it to you.

13) What a great idea, you're really thinking. How did you think of that?

14) I miss you sometimes too. I like it when we are together. Let's have some together time!

15) Tell me about your day. I'd like to hear more....I'll listen.

16) It's Good to share and be Care-bears....hey?

17) That's a good idea....you have some good ideas!

18) Sorry sweetheart/matey...I know better this time.

19) You are so kind and thoughtful. I really appreciate you.

20) I love you for the person you are - not just the things you do.

21) You made a mistake. That was wrong. Sometimes people make mistakes. I do too.

22) I can wait, we have time. You don't have to hurry this time.

23) You did the right thing - that was not easy.

I'm proud of you..

24) It's good to mix. Sometimes we lead and sometimes we follow. Let's be happy with both.

25) God is always with you when I'm not.

He's very close.

~~ Author Unknown ~~

A Parent's Prayer

They're only little once.

Grant me the wisdom to guide them down the path that their feet should take.

For I know that they can never turn back and

walk those paths with me again.

Give me the wisdom to guide their feet

so that someday they'll be able to walk alone.

They're only little once.

Give me the time I need to enjoy them.

For I know that after they're grown, I'll never

have another chance

to tell stories and pretend at those tea parties.

I'll never have another chance

They're only little once.

Let me be a good teacher and an even

better example.

Give me the right words and deeds to

teach them.

Help me to teach them about You and

how to walk in Your ways

so that when they are old they will not

depart from Your ways.

For they're only little one time,

only innocent and trusting and pliable for

a space of time, one minute in an eternity.

Let me do my best for them while I have the chance.

Author Unknown

Memo from Your Child

1. Don't spoil me. I know quite well that I ought not have all that I ask for, I'm only testing you.

2. Don't be afraid to be firm with me, I prefer it. It makes me feel more secure.

3. Don't let me form bad habits, I have to rely on you to detect them in the early stages.

4. Don't make me feel smaller than I am, It only makes me behave foolishly big.

5. Don't correct me in front of people if you can help it.

6. Don't make me feel that my mistakes are sins, it upsets my set of values.

7. Don't be upset when I say "I hate you", it's not you I hate, but your power to hinder.

8. Don't protect me from consequences, I need to learn sometimes.

9. Don't nag, if you do I will need to protect myself by appearing deaf.

10. Don't make rash promises, remember I feel badly let down when promises are broken.

11. Don't tax my honesty too much, I am easily frightened into telling lies.

12. Don't be inconsistent, that completely confuses me and makes me lose faith in you.

13. Don't tell me my fears are silly, they are very real to me and you can do much to reassure me if you try to understand.

14. Don't ever suggest that you are perfect or infallible. It gives me to greater dismay when I discover that you are neither.

15. Don't forget that I can't thrive without lots of love and understanding, but I don't need to tell you that, do I? 

~Author Unknown~

Little Eyes

There are little eyes upon you

And they're watching night and day.

There are little ears that quickly

Take in every word you say.

There are little hands all eager

To do anything you do

And a little girl who's dreaming

Of the day she'll be like you.

You're the little angel's idol

You're the wisest of the wise.

In her little mind about you

No suspicions ever rise.

She believes in you devoutly

Holds all you say and do

She will say and do, in your way

When she's grown up just like you.

There's a wide-eyed little girl

Who believes you're always right

And her eyes are always open

And she watches day and night.

You are setting an example

Every day in all you do

For the little girl who's waiting

To grow up to be like you.

~ author unknown ~

THE PARENT'S PLEDGE

  • I will set a good example for my child.
  • I will show my children I love them every day through words and physical affection.
  • I will listen to my children and let them know I value what they say.
  • I will praise my child's accomplishments and efforts towards those accomplishments.
  • I will have realistic expectations for my children.
  • I will allow them to make their own mistakes and learn from those experiences.
  • I will avoid being too critical or focusing on my child's shortcomings.
  • I will encourage my child to meet new challenges and have new experiences.
  • I will respect my children as individuals even if I don't always agree with them.
  • I will enjoy my children and make time to share interests and appreciate one another.
  • I will love my children unconditionally.
  • I will let them know they are lovable, worthwhile and valuable human beings.

~~ Author Unknown ~~

My Little One

My little one, my little one,

Oh, how you all have grown.

I look back through the pages now

for the little ones I have known.

It seems like only yesterday,

when you were learning to stand,

and looked at me with love and trust

as you reached for Mommy's hand.

Oh, why must time rush by me

at such a frantic pace?

Give me just a moment more

to remember that small face.

My little one, my little one,

the days were precious few,

when I could hold you in my arms

and wish the stars for you.

~ author unknown ~

Thoughts to Consider As You Raise Your Child

Remember that a child is a gift from God, the richest of all blessings. Do not attempt to mold him in the image of yourself, your father, your brother or neighbor. Each child is an individual and should be permitted to be himself.

Don’t crush a child’s spirit when he fails. Never compare him with others who have outshone him.

Remember that anger and hostility are natural emotions. Help your child to find socially acceptable outlets for these normal feelings or they may turn inward and erupt in the form of physical or mental illness.

Discipline your child with firmness and reason. Don’t let your anger throw you off balance. If he knows you are fair you will not lose his respect or love. Always make sure the punishment fits the crime. Even the youngest child has a keen sense of justice.

Remember that each child needs two parents. Present a united front. Never join with your child against your mate. This can create in your child emotional conflicts. It can also create feelings of guilt, confusion and insecurity.

Do not hand your child everything his little heart desires. Permit him to know the trill of earning and the joy of achieving. Grant him the greatest of all satisfactions – the pleasure that comes with personal accomplishment.

Do not set yourself up as the epitome of perfection. This is a difficult role to play 24 hours a day. You will find it easier to communicate with your child if you let him know that mom and dad err, too.

Don’t make threats in anger, or impossible promises when you are in a generous mood. Threaten or promise only that which you can live up to. To a child, a parent’s word means everything. The child who has lost faith in his parents has difficulty believing in anything.

Do not smother your child with superficial manifestation of “love”. The purest and healthiest love expresses itself in day-in, day-out training which breeds self-confidence and independence.

Teach your child there is dignity in hard work. Let him know a useful life is a blessed one and a life of ease and pleasure-seeking is empty and meaningless.

Do not try to protect your child against every small blow and disappointment. Adversity strengthens character and makes us compassionate. Trouble is the great equalizer. Let him learn it.

Teach your child to love the Creator and to love all his fellow man. Don’t send your child to a place of worship – take him there. Children learn from example. Telling him something is not teaching him. If you give your child a deep and abiding faith in God, it can be his strength and his light when all else fails.

If you are a single parent, surround yourself by loving and supportive friends, role models for your child. It takes a whole community to raise a child.

Unknown Author

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